The title of this post is the reason I haven’t posted anything in a while. Hello second semester of college. You were completely expected but totally unprepared for. I have a feeling I’m not the only one who feels that way, so let’s get into it.
First of all, I’m currently experiencing a new side affect of my anxiety…well at least I think it’s related to my anxiety. I have not slept much at all since I moved back into my dorm room. My body does not take well to changing routines. Christmas break is like a teaser and then you go back to school and it feels like summer camp for a while until it finally hits you that classes are a thing. Is it just me? I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else had this problem. It boggles me how the anxious person’s mind works, but I’m so glad I’m not alone!
So how can we overcome our dramatic changes in life? I’m not just talking about moving back to college, I just thought it would be a good opener. I’m also talking about a change in relationships, a change in the family, a change in major, a change in neighborhood. I don’t know what you’re going through right now, but I certainly hope these next tips will apply.
- Don’t freak out just because your body is. I know I can talk myself into being sick when I have just one thing that feels wrong. Okay for example, has anyone else thought that since your period is like a few days late, you’re automatically the next virgin mary?…just me again? Just because you have a headache, a stomach ache, or a sore throat does not mean you have cancer. You’re fine. Your body is adjusting to the disgusting dining hall food, you’re tired because you’re physically doing more work walking to class, and it’s really cold outside so your throat is dry. (I’m telling myself these things at least. I’ll update you if I have cancer.) IT’S A JOKE OK.
- Talk to some close friends. If you’ve moved, call your friends from back home and express how you’re feeling. If you lost a loved one, call your friends. In that situation, I’m sure they’d be happy to bring a meal. If you’ve changed your major, express your new found passion to a close friend or roommate, go out and celebrate at the nearest BDubs (for those who don’t know that’s a reference to Buffalo Wild Wings, the restaurant). If you just broke up with your boyfriend, you definitely need your girlfriends honey. Go on an ice cream run, I don’t care how cold it is. God gave us these relationships for a reason! We go through many changes in life and we weren’t meant to go through them alone.
- Call your mom. Just do it. She wants to know you’re safe. She wants to know how you feel. Actually, she probably just wants to talk to you. As you get older, you realize that you need her, and that eventually you can be best friends. (PSA Hi Mom, as my dedicated first subscriber, if you’re reading this I’ll call you later today 🙂 ) Actually just set a day in the week to talk to your mom. You don’t have parents forever. They’re here, now.
- Explore the town. You don’t have to spend money to do this. I find this tip works for pretty much every part of life. If you just moved, you should definitely do this to find the bright side of things, like that little ice cream shop that is so genuine you could never find it in the city, or the gigantic mall you never had at your other hometown. It’s the little things. I know when I got back to school I had to go grocery shopping anyway. Just get out. Do things. Be a girl. We just want to have fun right? Take your mind off of how frustrated you and your body are about a change you’re going through.
- Pray. I know, I know, this is a blog inspired by Jesus so I’m obligated to put this in here, but it will work. I know it feels like you’re talking to a wall sometimes, but when you realize that you actually get some sleep one night when you kept tossing and turning, or when you feel sick, and suddenly later in the day you feel great, you’ll know what I mean. Take time to notice these things and write them down. You’ll realize what an awesome God you have, even if it’s as little as finding a parking spot on campus that you jokingly (kind of) prayed for.
I hope these helped, and always remember to leave a comment with an experience you’ve had or how you can relate to me. I love hearing your stories!
Proverbs 3:24, “When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet.” (ESV)